PRAY FOR TERRI'S ETERNAL HAPPINESS
Terri passed away peacefully, painlessly and quietly in the late evening of August 16, 2006.
Many people have offered all kinds of help and the kindness of everyone has been overwhelming
to our family and very much appreciated. Now the only thing we need is our solitude and
the consolation of your prayers.
Terri was not alone as she passed on. She was at home in familiar surroundings, with family
members at her side while others carried on with their busy lives, just the way Terri would
have wanted it.
As a tribute to Terri’s lovely life, though cut short by the insidiousness of the disease, I have
included Terri’s Eulogy that
was read at her Mass of Christian Burial. The photographs have been added to help
celebrate her wonderful life.
One of Terri’s many attributes was her great sense of humor; of course that meant she always laughed
at my jokes, no matter how bad! But one area of humor she enjoyed
was reading funny obituaries. With that in mind, we were inspired to write the following obituary
for Terri. I do believe that Terri would have enjoyed it immensely.
Terri G. (Ottinger) Parise, 55, of Suffield, beloved wife for 32 years, 1 month and 25 days of
Dr. Ronald J. Parise, passed away peacefully in her home on Wednesday (August 16, 2006) after a
protracted illness. She was born December 16, 1950 at a very young age in East Lansing, Michigan because
she wanted to be close to her mother. Terri then headed south with her now deceased parents Kathleen Virtue
Ottinger and Dr. Charles Ottinger where she grew up in the beautiful mountains and farmland of east Tennessee,
the land of her father’s kin dating back to the days before the American Revolution. Terri enjoyed her rural
upbringing of milking cows, 4-H Fairs and judging poultry (at which she was an expert), and jumping out of barn lofts
with the scars to prove it. She also proudly marched in the high school band playing saxophone for the Fighting Cocks
of Cocke County High School. Terri was drawn to the big city lights of Atlanta and Emory University
(which graduated her with honors in 1972), and where her future husband met and lassoed her. Their life of bliss and
raucous living started in the coal fields of West Virginia and carried them over three continents and many adventures.
Terri and Ron have many memories including exploring Tut’s tomb in central Egypt, running with the bulls in
Pomplona, Spain, watching the setting of the midnight sun north of the Arctic Circle in Narvik, Norway, and coexisting
with the Masai tribesman in the African bush while in the shadow of Mount Kilimanjaro visiting Kenya and Tanzania.
Their travels brought them full circle, landing them back in Atlanta to start their family, and then moving north to the
hills of Connecticut, their residency for the past 17 years. Terri was an exceptional proofreader, writer and editor, but
enjoyed her job most working with special children in the Suffield School system. Known for her contagious smile, bubbly
personality, and entirely selfless nature, Terri’s greatest joy was found in her four children. The family enjoyed numerous
trips, from frequent visits to distant relatives, to lengthy summer cross-country road trips which took them to all forty-eight
contiguous states. Terri possessed a great love for her family and friends, and will be remembered always for her
big, kind heart. Survived by three children Katie, Tommy and Robbie, she was predeceased by their oldest son Joey. She
is also survived by her sister Kathy Ottinger Cole and husband Dr. Ronald Cole, and brother David Ottinger and wife
Kristy, all from Greenville, Tennessee. Terri is also survived by her mother-in-law and father-in-law Frances and Frank
Parise, her sister-in-law Susan McManus and husband Tim, brother-in-law Dennis Parise and wife Ann, brother-in-law
David Parise and wife Ann, and many nieces, nephews, and an assortment of cousins from all over. Terri’s great
sense of humor included her delight in reading funny obituaries. We hope she will enjoy hers. Arrangements for Terri’s final resting have been made. We will receive friends on Wednesday from 4-8:30 p.m.
at the Nicholson & Carmon Funeral Home 443 East St. (Rt. 159) Suffield. A Mass of Christian Burial will be held
on Thursday 10 a.m. from Sacred Heart Church, 46 Mountain Rd. Suffield. We will receive friends again on
Thursday from 4-8:30 p.m. at the Fairfield Funeral Home of Edmund W. Dougiello, 36 S. Pine Creek Rd.
A Mass of Christian Burial will be held on Friday 10 a.m. from St. Luke’s Church 84 Long Lots Rd, Westport.
Burial will follow in Oaklawn Cemetery, Fairfield. In lieu of flowers, please make memorial donations to the
Joey Parise Scholarship Fund, c/o First National Bank of Suffield, 30 Bridge Street, Suffield, CT, 06078.
Hopefully you had as much fun reading it as we had creating it for Terri.
The painting at the upper left is by Michelangelo circa 1504 of the Holy Family. The infant in the lower
right of the painting is John the Baptist and the picture represents the passage, through baptism, from pagan
times to the Christian age. Michelangelo was one of Terri’s favorite artists, the Sistine Chapel was one of her favorite
places, and Terri was a devout follower of Christ. Hopefully one day we will be able to rejoice in
her just reward in Heaven. For now there is great sadness in our home, and a loneliness and emptiness in my broken heart.
To be sure we all know who this classy lady was, please indulge me for a moment.
Terri, the college girl I met.
Terri, the woman I married.
Terri, the mother of our children.
THE OVERWHELMING KINDNESS OF OTHERS
The kindness of everyone has been overwhelming to our family and very much
appreciated after Terri’s passing. People continue to want to help, especially
with meals, despite MY enormous girth; yet I guess the children
still must eat. With great sincerity and humility to all, after repeated
discussions with our dear Wiccan of Wendover, Christine Hoffacker (cell: 860.214.9941),
we are requesting that meal arrangements please be made through her. Please
understand that without some type of organization, the food and cooking
effort may be for naught, which would be a terrible and shameful waste.
It may seem rather arrogant, but we do have unique, although somewhat
different eating habits (we like to think healthy eating habits). Thus
Wicca Hoffacker has requested I spell it out here for all to see. The
diet is simple: no sugar or sweeteners of any type (fructose, cane sugar,
corn syrup, honey, sorbitol, saccharin, aspartame, sucralose, stevia, etc.);
no wheat in any form (for pastas, substitute with rice (preferably brown or
wild), corn pasta, rice pasta or quinoa; for bread, substitute millet bread);
and no red, green, or yellow peppers. We consume plenty of fresh fruits,
vegetables and salads as well. This is why we are somewhat reluctant to
have people bring over foods, if you are not used to the diet, finding
ingredients or recipes may seem somewhat bothersome. But to those who
are adventurous enough, we are very much obliged! So thank you very
much for your generosity and thoughtfulness.
Thank you for your support and prayers!
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